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5 Things List

5 things was originally by the fabulous rr1996

I loved the idea so much that I asked his permission to recreate it! Here is my version! ❤

5 Things I Absolutely HATE:

  1. Not being heard or understood
  2. Ignorant people
  3. Entitled people
  4. Food
  5. People who take credit for my work and effort 

Can People Please:

  1. Just stop the drama.
  2. Ditto to R: accept when they are wrong…it’s called accountability and responsibility.
  3. Stop being so addicted to technology? Get off your phones. Get off your tablets. Get the fuck off Facebook. Connect with people.
  4. Stop assuming that because I’m overweight that I’m lazy/inactive/bulimic? I’m anorexic. Why would I lie and make that up? And proceed to tell you? 
  5. Start caring for their children and raising their own children? You’re not their friend you are their parent. You are the reason they are unable to behave. 

5 Things I Want:

  1. My trained profession and a job worthy of my skill set
  2. Pet rats
  3. To be thin and fit
  4. To have money so I can afford to move out, dance, and take trips
  5. Cherry as my therapist again… But to have a known therapy treatment team and plan right now.

Would It Be Okay If:

  1. The EDM club and dance scene was as vibrant here as it is in Vegas
  2. I actually got the things I asked for and deserved because I sure have worked hard and earned them…….
  3. People kept their religions to themselves and private? Because clearly there has never been a separation of church and well anything… What you believe is for you and your choice religion. Stop telling others how their life choices are wrong.
  4. Someone showered me in expensive gifts and payed my rent?
  5. There was a national holiday dedicated to cheese. And we had two days off for it.

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PC Abandonment Update

I’ve been surprisingly ok with PC being gone in another country. This time has ticked away.

The urges to and compulsions to lose a significant amount of weight before he returns have quieted down a bit.

That said I was a total fat ass the past two days and have eaten a ton of Halloween candy. Another post.

Anyways, I think I have been okay with this space because it allowed me to focus on me. The job change has been stressful in the sense that I need to be perfect; I must prove I can learn quickly and am the perfect employee. I’m anorexic and, apparently as much as I want to deny it, anorexics typically have type A personalities.

So I have been able to be selfish and not feel guilty about it. I can come home and do nothing. I sleep in my own bed. I pretty much am still sleeping a lot. This is me still adjusting to my schedule. I knew this would happen so this is not a shock for me.

I am less and less tired as the days pass so I am adjusting well. But I credit it to not having to put physical energy into my relationship. It’s almost like fate gave me this small reprieve.

I’m not having to tell PC no and turn down dates and overnights. We text each day so there is no need to have to be immediately available. The time change, for once, has been in my favor.

I have definitely learned that I really love him and enjoy having him in my life. He is my partner. We left on somewhat rocky terms–we had a pretty big [i thought fight but clearly disagreement because it’s insignificant now] disagreement.

Which brings me to the whole point of this post.

I’ve been so fine with him gone, that I never realized how much I would crack today when he sent me a message saying “Happy Anniversary in my country.”

Tomorrow is our American anniversary. A big landmark one for me; one where I sit back and evaluate whether or not I stay in this relationship or not. [he knows it, too].

There is no question for me. And I know he is all in, too.

I told him earlier this week I wanted to write a letter to his parents introducing myself because I’m not going to wait any longer–it reminds me of my ex and why we failed. PC feels he should never intro a girlfriend to his parents until after one year. Oh hell. No. I told him at that mark, at this point in my lifetime, we know whether or not we are going to get married or not. Or end it. I’m not wasting my time again. I know what I want.

So when I told him my idea about the letter this time, he did not fight me. A big step for us.

I knew he would not be here for our anniversary. We would celebrate after.

But I can’t stop being teary eyed. I’ve missed him yes. But now I miss him so much. His face [only been able to FaceTime once and no real pictures due to the security of his location]. His touch. His hugs. Obvi the sex. His smell. Just being around him.

A big hallmark anniversary and our first Halloween and he is missing it.

I have to be strong because I know he is so homesick. And there is a lot of job pressures and stressors. and he was so strong for me when I wanted to die and had relapsed because of my toxic job not even 5 weeks ago.

But it’s hard for me to be strong when my partner is so far away and all we can do is text. I feel abandoned but it’s not his fault it’s his boss’s.

DBT: Simple Mindfulness

  

Try these. Everyone can add mindfulness to their lives and everyone can benefit.

These extremely simple interventions or tasks are mindfulness examples. 

Some are easier to do than others. 

Some should be done daily. Like number 3—I practice taking 5 minutes a day each day to myself–no phone, technology, music, or anything. Just focus on breathing and quiet. I amazingly feel really recharged afterwards.

Try one of these this week. See how it goes. As always, feel free to share if you feel comfortable. 

My DBT Crisis Notecards Project

Someone had mentioned something along this line during my DBT group. Then I saw this on Pinterest during my crisis time and realized this spoke to me on many levels.

So I am going to make myself this mini project–merging the idea of the nursing school notecard organizer with notecards with DBT notes for crisis intervention on it. 

   
 

Wins all around. Anyone want to join me? We can work on it and post pictures of our progress!

I am going to do cards with quotes, pictures, and reasons to recover as well as the DBT cards.

Productivity

Today I just wanted, and needed, to sleep most of the day away.

But I had plans to see Erin for brunch.

I woke up, bitter because I woke up. I had a hard time sleeping–turns out intuition was on high and knew that PC was going to message me at 0230. So I just kept reading and low and behold he did. We texted for about half an hour until I knew I had to go to sleep because I had to get up.

I was anxious about eating today. Ed’s voice has been working pretty hard lately. I still want to lose weight before PC gets back. Something is making me anxious and I can’t put my finger on it yet [is it still the loss of Cherry and lack of support?].

We met at a buffet chain that basically focuses on salads and carbs. I had salad, which is huge for me since I just started re eating salad only a few months ago–it was removed from my safe foods list after getting severely sick from it in college [they gave us rotten salad]. In a nutshell, anything that makes Cassie vomit immediately goes on the never to be eaten again list.

I digress.

So I was freaked out. Tired. Still sensitive stomach to a degree. Still sensitive uterus [that bitch]. Just more acutely aware of that area.

And while I ate less than Erin and way less than I usually do, I can’t help but walk away feeling like I ate the entire buffet. Pretty agitated.

Erin and I did get to talk and she is going to join my gym. With no Cherry telling me no + Ed’s voice getting louder + increase need to lose weight, Cassie is going to break her medically frozen membership.

Erin and I will be buddies. So at least I am still stuck with that. And PC wants to go with me as well.

This means I could get 3 days of 5k runs in and 3-4 days of gym. And when I gym, I always end witj deep stretching. I’m pumped and so is Ed’s voice. Like ecstatic.

I can’t wait to unfreeze!!

I’m also ecstatic to be able to see Erin more now with my new work schedule!! First time since I’ve known her! Sooo many things we will do!!

On my way home I swung by an office supply store and did what I was supposed to do months ago–pick up my food behaviors log notebook. I also picked up one for my gym log. I want to track it all. Patterns are indicative of a lot. Especially in me who suffers from purge behaviors of excessive exercise.

And of course I got a million other things!! Some more stuff for work. Mini on sale backpacks for my cousin’s daughters. Binder rings for my DBT crisis notecard project [separate post]. Pens for my letters to PC/addressing holiday cards. Badgyr’s journals. Mini binders to put cards I want to keep–a separate project.

I came home and tried to take a nap but PC text chatted. Stupid time difference. Stupid he is stressed out so I have to support him even though I’m agitated how I’m sacrificing my sleep to be available to him but not vice versa.

Then I was like ok time for forced dinner because I need to eat. That just felt gross. Wanted to skip.

I worked on several projects and that felt great to get those done! I finished my Rolodex. I made my Food Behaviors Log. I made my Gym Log. I even painted my nails.

Feels good to get that all done.

Tomorrow is a long day.

So I’ve been productive but I’m not sure if it’s mania or actual my life getting back on track.

The end result was things were crossed off my list. So I am going with productive. 😛

To Post Or Not

I’ve been struggling with whither or not to do this post. Mainly because my past few I feel shows I’m feeling more confident and recovered. Or maybe I need to convey that I am.

Fake it till you make it?

PC is on another continent; in the other time zone.

After first I was really upset. But between the whole return of anorexic hell [manstruation {yes Immunity I, too name things after men that cause me pain}], coping with the time change for jobs, coping with the seasonal changes [I am still convinced I have seasonal affective disorder to a degree], and getting over my latest gastroenteritis I have actually enjoyed him being gone.

Our time differences has allowed me to focus more on me and I do not feel selfish for it.

And I have noticed that I have lost weight.

😀   <—–big grin


So I set a new goal for myself: lose so much weight that PC cannot help but notice and comment when he seems me after his lengthy trip.

Perfect! I have the time. I will have the energy. What can go wrong?

PC told me yesterday he thought he might come home early.

Ed’s voice demonstrated that I clearly do not have the reins.

I was actually disappointed.

Sure I’m horny as hell. I need sex. But him coming home earlier than planned is less time for me to lose the weight. And that just freaks me out. That is not what I planned; what Ed’s voice has been whispering to me as plans.

And I feel like a raging selfish bitch. Like I’m 19 again.

All emotional attachment turned off. Fuck to fuck. Sex is raw. Escape coming in many unhealthy forms.

I don’t want to go back to that shadow of me again.

Which is why I was so tempted to not post. But then I remembered: Cassie, the whole point of this blog is for insight into the struggles you experience. Hiding them is not showing transparency or how hard it is. That is what won out.

I know it comes off as shallow but I don’t know how to explain to you that my desire to be thin overrides everything else.

I love PC and of course I want to see him and have him home! But to have him wait and come back and see me thinner? Now that’s a pleasure that Ed’s voice and I agree on. Like orgasmic pleasure.

I want my readers to see inside my head. This week, that has been my other struggle.

Besides being sick and missing work and feeling worlds guilty, I have been obsessed with weight loss again. Just trying to get the energy back to push it further.

I am horrible at taking my own advice. I know what I should be doing. I know all the interventions!! Just cannot fight it on my own. And not sure I want to sometimes. Especially if it means I can be a size Large again instead of XL.

Yes very very gross.